Well,
lads, I’m sure you’ve heard these questions asked a million times over
the years. Maybe you’ve even asked some of them yourself. “Who’s the
right girl for me? What will she look like? Do I already know her? How
will I know who it is?”
Admittedly they’re all fairly
honest (and appropriate) questions. But there are several even more
fundamental questions that single Christian males should ask themselves
before even thinking about getting a girl.
Question 1: Am I a man?
God
didn’t create a boy and a girl in the Garden of Eden. He made a man and
a woman. God’s plan for marriage is for men- not for wimpy boys. A man
of God must be mature, emotionally stable, responsible and capable of
taking care of a woman of God. So if you’re still trying to be the
‘church clown’ by constantly draw attention to yourself, it’s a pretty
sure sign that you shouldn’t be thinking about seeking a girlfriend.
You’ll curse her rather than bless her if you’re only a boy dressed up a
man’s body. A boy only thinks of himself whereas a man is concerned
about others.
Question 2: Can I provide for her economical needs?
Not
only must a man be able to offer emotional support to his potential
spouse, but economic stability as well. This doesn’t mean that you have
to be the richest guy in your Christian circle, but it does mean that
you have to have a sound work ethic and a healthy attitude towards hard
labour. God will always send His blessing upon such guys. In Old
Testament days, men of the Lord made sure their wives had a roof over
their heads, a bed to sleep on and food on the table. If you can’t
provide for a girl, then it’s definitely not the right time to think
about a relationship.
Question 3: Can I provide for her spiritual needs?
Men-
as the Bible makes clear- are the head of the house. A man of the Lord
is responsible for his wife’s spiritual welfare. This means that he must
be able to teach his future wife (and children) sound doctrine. Also,
he must make sure that she is in a sound church environment where the
Gospel is plainly preached and the Scriptures constantly expounded. But
if you don’t have an intimate prayer life with God and if you don’t set
time aside to daily meditate upon the Scriptures, how do you think
you’ll be able to spiritually edify your lady? Answer: you won’t! If
Christ isn't the centre of your own personal life, He sure won't be the
centre of your relationship-life either.
Conclusion
If
single Christian men asked themselves these three simple questions
before contemplating a relationship, a load of lives would be saved from
so many unnecessary tragedies and countless hearts would not have to be
broken. So ask yourself one more time: Am I a man? Can I provide for
her economical needs? Can I provide for her spiritual needs? And if the
answer is “yes” to each of these questions, then keep seeking the Lord
and His righteousness and everything else (a woman of God included, if
the Lord so desires) shall be added onto you (Matthew 6:33).
By Will Graham